Narcissists are overly emotional and overly sensitive. They appear to be calm and composed on the outside, but underneath, they are highly sensitive and react strongly to criticism and slights. This story will examine why narcissists are overly emotional and what they get from being overly emotional.
Being an emotional person is a good trait. It means you’re caring and sensitive and that you can feel the emotions of others. All of these are good things.
Narcissists are overly emotional and let their emotions control them. When they are sad, they cry. When they are angry, they lash out. When they are happy, they are giddy. Most of the time, this is just annoying and a little bit funny.
However, it can be dangerous when they negatively express their emotions towards others. The most common emotion they express is anger. They are often in a state of constant rage.
They believe they are better than everyone, even those closest to them, and that they should be treated as such. They think that the rules of society don’t apply to them since they are so much better than everyone else.
Narcissists are often the people who commit violent crimes or get into bar fights. They are the ones who are often behind road rage incidents. This is because they cannot control their emotions and because they believe that they are better than everyone else, they feel entitled to lash out at those around them.
The relationship between narcissists and emotions
Narcissists are overly emotional, despite being aware that their emotions are not normal. Narcissists overreact to events, and the intensity of their reaction is not proportional to the event itself.
The narcissist sees everything in terms of “that’s how much I’m worth” or “that’s how little I’m worth.” The narcissist feels entitled to special treatment, and when that treatment isn’t forthcoming, the narcissist demands to know why.
The narcissist expects to be recognized as superior and preferential treatment. If the narcissist isn’t given what s/he expects, s/he reacts with rage and anger. The narcissist feels misunderstood and may fly into a rage if pressed to explain themself.
Some reasons are why narcissists are overly emotional beings; they benefit from this.
1. Emotions are used to confirm their superiority
Narcissists are often more emotional than people with other personality disorders because they use emotions to confirm their superiority. To maintain a feeling of superiority, they need to be the center of attention, have everyone’s admiration, and be seen as the best.
Therefore, they have a compulsive need to feel overly emotional in all situations. They use emotion as a way to manipulate people and get attention. The more emotional they get, the more people will watch them, and the more they will believe that they are better than everyone else.
2. Emotions are used to prove to themselves that they are still special
Everyone knows that narcissists are over-the-top emotional creatures. Their feelings seem to be on a rollercoaster, changing from one moment to the next. If a narcissist is sad one minute, angry the next, and then happy, they need to explain these changes.
Emotions aren’t just used to express how they feel but also to prove that they are still unique. After all, if a narcissist has no emotions, they are just as ordinary as you and I.
Since narcissists are so emotional, it doesn’t matter how big or small the event caused the emotion. If they get angry, they need to have a reason equally as intense as the emotion itself.
Instead of just getting angry because they spilled their coffee, they are mad because they are being ignored or overlooked.
3. The more they experience emotions, the more they want to experience them
It’s a narcissist who always wants more. A narcissist has a strong desire to feel emotions, and when they do, they have a strong desire to feel them again.
They are constantly searching for something that will give them an emotional experience. The more they experience emotions, the more they want to experience them.
They are often looking for a new experience or a greater intensity of an experience. When a person focuses on themselves, they aren’t just experiencing emotions, but they are also feeling a sense of power and control, which can be addictive.
A narcissist often feels intense emotional highs and lows, and they don’t know how to handle these emotions.
So they will often seek out emotional experiences to try to regulate their emotions. It is an attempt to find a balance they are constantly seeking.
4. Emotions are used to control another individual
Have you ever wondered why narcissists are so overly emotional? They love using their emotions to control another individual. They respond very intensely, almost to the point of irrationality, when they feel like they are being attacked.
One day they will be someone’s best friend, and the next, they are their worst enemy. It is usually a child that suffers the most in relationships with a narcissistic parent.
They are often the victims of belittlement and callousness, and their lives can be controlled by their parents.
5. Low self-esteem is a common trait among narcissists, which again justifies their emotions
It’s easy to think that narcissists are so emotionally unstable because they have low self-esteem, but it’s often the other way around. Narcissists are emotionally unstable because they have low self-esteem.
Narcissists are often overly emotional, especially when they are in a relationship. They are prone to jealousy, possessiveness, and emotional highs and lows. Their emotions often depend on how they feel about themselves.
When they feel good about themselves, they are great to be around. When they feel bad about themselves, they are depressed and often lash out. Narcissists often have low self-esteem, so they are so emotionally reactive.
They overreact to criticism, and their self-esteem depends on how others view them. Narcissists need to be adored by their partners, which is why they are so jealous and possessive.
6. Emotions are used as a tool to get attention from those around them
According to clinical psychologist Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman:
“Narcissists are attracted to emotionally unstable people because these people are vulnerable, and narcissists like to exploit the weakness of others.”
Kaufman
Narcissists can be very charming and charismatic. They’ll go above and beyond to impress others and gain their approval. They’ll exaggerate their accomplishments, and they’ll often create a fantasy version of themselves in their head.
They do this to puff themselves up and make themselves feel better about themselves. They’ll often live in a fantasy world, and because of this, they may have very little emotional intelligence.
Many narcissistic people are quick to overreact to everything and anything. Their excessive emotional state results from the emotions they feel, but they typically hold those feelings inside and cause them to explode on those closest to them. If you are friends with someone narcissistic, you will want to know how to deal with their overly emotional state.
